It's Your Decision, Decide To Succeed

The time to change has come and gone

Watched your fears become your god

It's your decision

That is the opening verse from the song Your Decision by Alice In Chains. I can relate to that because it is exactly what I did. I had to change things in my life a long time ago and I didn't. Maybe you can relate?

I let my fears consume my life and hold me back from doing the things that I wanted to do in the internet marketing business. I was shy, self conscious, had low self esteem, a bad self image, felt unworthy, not good enough, had a hard time dealing with rejection, among many other things. 

Maybe you have felt these things as well. Have you ever dreaded talking to people about a business opportunity or recommending a product that helped you and you know can help someone else? 

Have you ever had your anxiety level go up and had to do breathing exercises to calm down before you started a conversation with someone? How about giving yourself a pep talk to get the courage to start a conversation? 

Have you ever had confidence on a subject that you know in and out and then when you went to make a video about you, you freeze as soon as the camera goes on? 

I have had it all happen to me. I would make videos and be in a panic the whole time I was recording the video, trying to make it look like I wasn't. When it came to making a video, I would get nervous and I would be critical of the video and either not post it or take it down.

I would tell myself how the lighting or background was no good, or I looked bad or didn't speak fluent enough. The content was was and accurate because I knew it well, I was just getting in my own head too much with negative thoughts.

I let those fears keep me from making videos and becoming more active on social media and building my internet marketing business and mlm. 

I was afraid of what people would think about the way that I look and sound. I was worried about people thinking I wasn't successful enough or smart enough. I was afraid of being rejected.

I have taken many courses, read many books and have attended many business conferences on internet marketing, leadership and personal development. I wasn't doing anything with all of that knowledge because of unnecessary fears.

Why did I feel all of these things and let it keep me from going after my dreams? Because it was MY DECISION. It may have been an unconscious decision but unconscious decisions come from repeated conscious decisions that you make until it gets into your unconscious mind. 

Once that happens, your unconscious mind goes to work to create the physical equivalent of what you keep telling yourself. 

Your unconscious makes decisions for you automatically, it does not know the difference between reality and fantasy. 

It believes whatever you tell yourself or concentrate on the most. It then goes to work to reproduce what you focus on the most. If you have a lot of negative self talk going on in your head, it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. 

I never had a problem studying or learning the content. It actually fascinated me and I couldn't wait to share it with it people.....until it came time to actually share it with people. 

I had no problem writing blog posts, it is just when it came time to put it on video and add the video to my blog post, is when the self sabotage came into play.

Why did I have all of these negative beliefs about myself? For a long time I just thought that is how was, I was just shy and not a sociable person. I decided that was just the way it was and for awhile I felt I would never be more than a truck driver. 

I was comfortable in the truck, I very rarely had to talk to someone and I was by myself all day.

However, as I started reading more and attending conferences and getting around successful people who have overcome similar things, I realized that it didn't have to be that way. I always wanted to be charismatic and be able to be sociable and be able to talk in front of people, I just didn't know how to. 

It turns out that I let things that were said about me when I was younger, have a negative effect on me throughout my life. I let something other people said become a reality. 

People have opinions about everything, it is just that, an opinion and you can't let it become a reality. Luckily for me I learned at an early age that there are always people who are going to like you and people who aren't going to like you. 

It still took me a long time to realize that I had a major problem with dealing with rejection.  I had to dig deep inside of and get down to what was really holding me back. 

When you have a hard time dealing with rejection, it makes communicating with people hard. It holds you back in business, it makes you afraid of doing anything in the sales field and it will hold you back if you are trying to build a mlm.

It did all of those things for me. I dreaded sales, to the point where it caused me a lot of anxiety. I have 32 years experience in the trucking business. I have been trying to get out of trucking because I feel I can be more and do more than just be a truck driver .

I always had an interest in learning real estate. So I started learning real estate, got a real estate sales license and became a loan officer for a mortgage company. I didn't do well. 

Not because I didn't know real estate and finance but because I lacked confidence and because I didn't want to deal with talking to people trying to get sales and deal with yet more rejection. I love real estate and finance and knew the business well. I just didn't have the mental capacity to deal with the rejection. Sales is a high rejection business.

It took me a long time to figure that out and thousands of hours of reading and attending personal development seminars and mindset training from highly successful people.

When I got into the internet marketing business, it carried over into that business. It prevented me from making videos and putting myself out there to help other people. I was worried about what people would think about how I looked or sounded. I was worried that not being college educated would make me lose credibility. 

That was my belief because it was a decision that I made. A belief is just something you tell yourself over and over again until you believe it to be true. I  had to make a decision to succeed. I had to believe that I was capable and worthy of the success I wanted. 

The bottom line is I wanted to help others overcome the things I have overcome to become successful. I was making it about me and not about other people. 

My main goal is to help others overcome their limiting self beliefs that are holding them back from achieving their goals and living a better life. If I help enough people reach their dreams, I will reach mine. 

Now I think about all of the people that I could have helped and didn't because I let limiting self beliefs hold me back. I think about the life that I have dreamed about giving my family and being able to spend more time with them. 

Now, I let the things that I want for other people motivate me. I remember what a leader in a home business said that really struck me. He said "Success isn't measured by wealth, success is measured by how many people are better off because you lived." 

Everyone is not going to like us or agree with us. Nobody is liked by everyone. People have different personalities and we don't all get along, it is just the way it is. It is not personal and we have to keep that in mind.

I am so grateful for the people that helped me, that overcame their fears because if they didn't, I would have never found them and maybe I wouldn't be where I am right now. Maybe I would still be self conscious and having internal conflicts because I wanted to be different than I was but didn't know how to. 

Because of others overcoming their fears and self limiting beliefs, I am now getting to be the person that I have always wanted to be. I am not where I want to be yet but I am a lot closer than I was. 

You can overcome your fears and things that are holding you back as well. It is just a matter of getting your mind in the right place and thinking about the right things. Wouldn't you love to be self confident and to be able to just go out there and teach everyone what you know and help them like you were helped? You can do that. It's your decision, decide to succeed. It is as simple as making some changes in your mindset.

There are some special people that I have learned from during my journey to where I am now. If it were not for them sharing their experiences and challenges that they had along the way, I would not be where I am now.

They have helped me go deep into the abyss of my mind to really discover what has been holding me back and how to overcome it.

I came across a high level mastermind group that has helped me immensely. It is led by someone who has been a top earner in the internet marketing business for over 20 years. 

She has helped set many people free from the things that are holding them back over the years and I am lucky enough to be one of them. Maybe she can help you too. 

We meet once a month for 2 hours and have a group discussion of life altering concepts that help stretch and grow our minds and take our businesses and lives to the next level. 

When you join you will also unlock all previous mastermind classes that are in the video library, so you can go back and review them all. 

Click the link below to get more information on The Deep Abyss Mastermind. You won't regret it.

If there is any way I can help you, reach out to me. You can go to my home page and join my newsletter for alerts when I have new blog posts or any cool trainings that are coming up. You can also reach me on email or social media:

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To Your Success,

Roy Longhitano


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